When you decide to adopt a child, there will be plenty of questions to ask and answer. You’ll have to take everything into consideration, and apart from the legal process of adoption that could take several months, you need to do your own research. You’ll have to be prepared for everything because you will have a new soul into your life and everything will change.
Here’s what you’ll have to do before bringing the child home and even before starting the process. These are easy adoption tips that anyone can follow as it will make an easier transition from a life without children to a life full of laughter and kids.
This is the most important part – you have to learn everything that you can about this. There are books, magazines, websites and other sources. You’ve never had a child before so you could talk with other parents. If it’s possible, meet some parents who have already adopted a child and see how they are doing, what hardships they have met along the way.
Going alone on this road can be hard but not impossible. However, you will need to have professional help from those who are experts in this area. You could meet adoption agencies, adoption specialists and lawyers and ask for their opinion. There may be informational meetings in your area, hold by private and public agencies and they might offer you more information. You could ask for handouts and brochures. There’s also the possibility to talk with attorneys, social workers, agency representatives or facilitators. You could always screen those lawyers and those agencies that you think you might use and check their references.
You need to decide what kind of child you want before starting this process. There can be infants or older children, girl or boy, foreign born or domestic child. Sometimes, if you have a specific request, it could take a longer time. You also need to consider if you could accommodate with siblings or twins, or with a child that requires a special attention. You also need to think about the possibility of having an open relation with the child’s birth parents. Apart from this, you’ll have to think if you want a public agency adoption, an independent non-agency adoption or a private agency adoption.
Don’t think that this is cheap or free, because it’s not. You need to have a solid financial plan that can cover the type of adoption that you want. You need to save as much money as you can before starting this process.
You need to make a thorough research on the adoption law according to what you want – a child that was born there, or a child that was born in another country. The best thing to do is to go to a specialized attorney that has good references and who can help you out with this. However, consider the budget for this process, because these are not cheap.
What You Need
You’ll need different papers, and all of them will have to be notarized – the copies of marriage licenses, the copies of birth certificates, medical exams, employment records, financial statements, a written autobiography, criminal clearance document, three letters of reference, fingerprints, a psychological evaluation, and everything else that you might be required.
You might also need to take an interview with the social worker and with the adoption agency, but be also prepared for visits at your home and other investigations. It’s a process that can take some time, but in the end, you’ll be able to bring home the child that you have chosen.